Be honest with yourself … are you clear about your goals?
It’s simple enough to set a goal, but to have it be crystal clear, that takes a little more practice.
I am a fan of the movie “The Secret”, and what you believe about that is up to you, I choose to believe my words are powerful. I believe dreams do come true. Time and time again, with that belief I’ve just seen too many things to not believe it.
Sometimes too, I’ve seen that not being clear, can bring mixed results.
A few months, I was on my way to a networking function, and I made the decision on the way there that “$3,000 was going to fall in my lap.” In my mind and heart, it was written in stone. While at the event I made a donation for 20 raffle tickets for a 4 night, all-inclusive stay in a resort in Puerta Vallarta. Would you believe I WON? And that trip was valued around $2,000. Dang. I was grateful to be the winner, I truly was, but what I was hoping to receive was $3,000 in income … payola, not a trip … that couldn’t be sold or transferred.
Lately I’ve been meandering, not taking anything terribly seriously. That suits me well, until it doesn’t. I met with my coach last week to set some new goals, and we worked and honed them until they were crystal clear. And I came home and wrote them on my bathroom mirror with a dry-erase marker.
Last night we watched the Odd Life Of Timothy Green *** SPOILER ALERT *** if you have not seen this family friendly movie, and want to, this is a small spoiler, you may want to stop reading.
You have been warned.
In the movie the parents made written goals or wishes for their child to be. One by one, those goals came true.
One of those goals was about athleticism. Will he be an athlete or won’t he? They decided that neither of them were great athletes, so that wouldn’t be a worry, but once in the child’s life he would score the winning goal.
Fast forward to the day of the big game, the tension mounts and the child, who was a “water boy” and “bench warmer” the whole season was put into the game. In the last moments he kicked and he scored. He kicked the ball toward the boy with the same color jersey as his, which meant he scored the winning goal … for the other team. The parents argued about it later, being angry that they’d missed the opportunity to “get it right.” No one was proud of the boy either, because even though it was his very best effort, it wasn’t the right goal. Literally.
And that brought me right back to clearly defining my goals, too.
Today I was chatting with a friend and I reminded her to be clear, too. She set a goal statement with the words … I think I want …. ((insert buzzer sound)) nope. That just won’t do. We have to be clear. Because like the old story goes, if you don’t know where you’re going, any road will do. So be clear, peel back the layers, and set your sites on the stars. You can get there.